Desire of portraying oneself unique guides our actions throughout our lives. From the moment we are born, parents try to differentiate us with other kids and instil a feeling of pseudo uniqueness in us. The education system is no better. From early on, there are ranks, grade point averages, percentiles for differentiation. In our actions gradually we start to prove every second that we are different than every person we are with or interact with. "I did this", "I think that" or simply "I am" as conversation starters show our eagerness to prove our unique persona.
However, there is no need to go that long, since, one is unique the minute one is born. There is no second copy of me anywhere anyways. Nature has already taken care of that aspect and made me different than others. I am not even same as my identical twin, if any, even though we may be born seconds apart. Nature has a way of putting its signature on its creation. Nothing that is created by nature is same as another.
Still the ironical part is that from the moment we are born, we spend rest of our life proving that we are different than each other. The "different" soon becomes competitive and starts to mean "better". In the zeal of proving our uniqueness, we mix the part where unique means better. I am better than the next person. This thought takes over rest of our lives. I am different but my different traits are better than someone else.
We forget that Nature has already provided us with a genetic composition, a DNA signature or my biological identity i.e. my face, finger prints, retina, dental frame etc. Thses are so unique that it is impossible to be replicated. From phone companies to governments using biometrics, everyone is using this uniqueness to differentiate me from others. My uniqueness is my identity. I live my life with this unique identity of my own. My thought process, my logical reasoning, my decision making process and my behaviour, everything takes shape from what nature has given me.
So why is there an innate need to prove at every given point in my life that I am better than the next person? If we overcome this desire than we will overcome many hours of wasteful effort. The time we spend on social media broadcasting ourselves is a classic example. The sheer need to show the world what I did, what I think or what makes me what I am, is the entire premise behind social media publication these days. In that enthusiasm, sometimes people even forget who they really are or were.
One starts with a unique identity to begin with. This may be a normal state of being where one might bear similarities of some of the to others. But in the disguise of proving oneself better than others, people often create a fake persona of themselves and try to portray someone who they are not. Such behaviour can only lead to unhappiness.
One should be at peace with oneself. What you have been from childhood or through your teens is itself a signature to you. There is no need to get influenced by other personalities. Just keep on nurturing what you are and you will be happy with yourself. What makes myself "Me" is already inside me. There is no need to broadcast this and try to become someone who we are not. I am happy with who I am and I am unique.
However, there is no need to go that long, since, one is unique the minute one is born. There is no second copy of me anywhere anyways. Nature has already taken care of that aspect and made me different than others. I am not even same as my identical twin, if any, even though we may be born seconds apart. Nature has a way of putting its signature on its creation. Nothing that is created by nature is same as another.
Still the ironical part is that from the moment we are born, we spend rest of our life proving that we are different than each other. The "different" soon becomes competitive and starts to mean "better". In the zeal of proving our uniqueness, we mix the part where unique means better. I am better than the next person. This thought takes over rest of our lives. I am different but my different traits are better than someone else.
We forget that Nature has already provided us with a genetic composition, a DNA signature or my biological identity i.e. my face, finger prints, retina, dental frame etc. Thses are so unique that it is impossible to be replicated. From phone companies to governments using biometrics, everyone is using this uniqueness to differentiate me from others. My uniqueness is my identity. I live my life with this unique identity of my own. My thought process, my logical reasoning, my decision making process and my behaviour, everything takes shape from what nature has given me.
So why is there an innate need to prove at every given point in my life that I am better than the next person? If we overcome this desire than we will overcome many hours of wasteful effort. The time we spend on social media broadcasting ourselves is a classic example. The sheer need to show the world what I did, what I think or what makes me what I am, is the entire premise behind social media publication these days. In that enthusiasm, sometimes people even forget who they really are or were.
One starts with a unique identity to begin with. This may be a normal state of being where one might bear similarities of some of the to others. But in the disguise of proving oneself better than others, people often create a fake persona of themselves and try to portray someone who they are not. Such behaviour can only lead to unhappiness.
One should be at peace with oneself. What you have been from childhood or through your teens is itself a signature to you. There is no need to get influenced by other personalities. Just keep on nurturing what you are and you will be happy with yourself. What makes myself "Me" is already inside me. There is no need to broadcast this and try to become someone who we are not. I am happy with who I am and I am unique.
